I think that Oscar Wilde is making fun of the upper class. I think that he is trying to show the ridiculousness of the formalities and everything that that upper class people do. In a way I feel like he is trying to say, who’s idea was it for all the formalities? If anything love is not a formality, it is anything but formal. It is unexpected and sometimes unwanted, and almost always relentless, but never formal. Love by definition something that drives a person wild. Love is passion and passion is a sense of craziness about something. There is nothing formal about love. Love is not a courting ritual where the women decline because they are to modest to say yes and Wilde is pointing out the absurdity of the whole thing. The couple in The Importance of Being Earnest are ridiculous. They claim to love each other but they really know nothing about each other and they do not treat one another very well. They are not really even in love. They are just conforming to societies expectations of what they should do, even though they do not act like society would expect them to act. Wilde gets everything mixed up and upside down showing that there is nothing formal about love. It is not immoral to point out flaws in some one’s way of acting especially if those people are absurd.